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Talking to your doctor

Initiating the discussion

If you say something like "I have a problem which I want to discuss with you, but I find it difficult to talk about," the GP will immediately be on your side. Another possibility is to write a few lines about your problem, take the note with you to your appointment and ask the GP to read it. Or print a page from this website and take it with you and use it as a starting point. Don't worry if talking makes you nervous or tearful - doctors are used to people being upset.
 

Confidentiality

You may be concerned about confidentiality. The best way of dealing with this is to ask the doctor. Say "I have a rather embarrassing/personal problem that I want to discuss with you, but I am worried about confidentiality. How confidential is our discussion? Who will see the notes you make?"
 

What if you don't like your doctor?

You may dislike your doctor, or you may like him/her but feel he/she would be unsympathetic to this particular problem. If you genuinely don't like your doctor, you should change. Some practices will let you change to another doctor within the practice, or will let you make all your appointments with other doctors within the practice without officially changing. Some practices don't allow this, so your only option if you don't like your doctor is to change to another practice.
 
If you like your doctor, but don't want to discuss this particular problem with him/her, simply say to the receptionist, "Just for this one appointment, I would like to see Dr Y instead of Dr X."

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Comments on this article

Posted by Optional on 15/11/2011 at 08:26

Occassionally i have a sharp throbbing headache on the forehead area and it is so bad that it affects my vision i start to have blurry vision and i can't think straight as if am confused. I get sensitive to strong odours and light. Sometimes i become so nauseas and feel so weak. Sometimes my mouth and hands become numb I don't know what it is and I do not know what to take since it is becoming a recurring problem.

Posted by Feather hairs... on 10/08/2011 at 11:08

I get these clumps of little white hairs that grow, from areas on my sides and stomach right above pubic area, usually out of stretch marks. If I do not pull them they tend to in-grow and have even gotten so bad as to cause me to get a staph infection. The hair clump looks like feathers, with a single hair base, with a solid white base, and then usually several hairs no longer than 1/4" all held together at the base. I'm concerned that I will get another infection if I don't manage to find them in time. The only way I am able to locate them is to just run my fingers over the skin on my stomach and sides feeling for a slight flesh colored bumps. What are these? Can they be prevented?

Posted by Optional on 26/07/2011 at 09:39

I am a male 45yrs old who likes to removal all my body hair. I tried to ask my doctor about it but he looked horrified and it was a humilating experience. I don't like shaving and waxing and have looked at laser hair removal but the only nearest clinic is to expensive. I don't seem to be able to forget about it.

Posted by Ainsley on 01/06/2011 at 03:30

I don't want the doctor to look and feel my privates because I'm really self concoius

Posted by yommy on 20/04/2011 at 10:35

I love everything about this site

Posted by Random on 20/04/2011 at 07:30

I had a tattoo done in thailand 10 weeks ago, it was on a very fleshy part of my body and the tattoo didn't bleed - what are the chances i'v got HIV?

Posted by vacity on 09/03/2011 at 07:53

can female masturbation with vasline cause any harm in female reproductive organs

Posted by Reena on 08/03/2011 at 10:15

I started my first course of Nordette contraception. Some say that I will be protected after 7 active pills ( yellow ones) and others-say that I should wait for 14 days. If I have intercourse and I have taken the active pills for about 8 days, would I be Protected against falling pregnant. Please can u assist?.... Thank you...

Posted by Optional on 25/02/2011 at 12:07

Dear Dr Margaret I am young but i have really bad eye bags at the age of 15. I do take my iron tablets and i do sometimes drink fresh cows milk because my mum said that will help. But they do not go what can i do to help my eyebags go away. i do not want to use any anti ageing creams or roll ons.

Posted by Optional on 21/02/2011 at 12:22

i drastically started to ejaculate much less than i nornally do what could be the problem

Posted by chrisyina on 20/02/2011 at 02:43

dear doctor i am with a good dr and still in a lot of pain i have had it for 4 yrs but its got worse over the years and its at its peak now i have been addmitted to hospital had an mri on the lumbar and they found prolased discs 3 of them near the ccoycx and it wont let me walk or do any house work now so the pain clinic said a caudial injection will help but what is your opinion on this is there anything that can go wrong as i have ptsd through a bad exspence 5 years ago so i not good with worry as you can appreciate it brings it on badly so any help you can offer me would be most helpful and the muscle goes in and out like protalgia fugax thanking you christina .

Posted by Optional on 20/02/2011 at 05:47

I have problem with my breast . My nipples don't stick out as normal. I feel that i dont have nipples. What would you suggest??

Posted by Optional on 16/02/2011 at 09:30

my penis erects slightly to right and when it is erected it is upwards not straight..?is dis a problem or normal case?

Posted by jas on 14/02/2011 at 07:04

In the morning after doing my breakfast, my left hand thumb(mainly) and near the left elbow, a kind of burning sensation, irritating type starts. Also the same happens after i do my body exercises. why?

Posted by Optional on 11/02/2011 at 12:47

Hi my name is lucia, i have hair growing on my upper belly and lower belly and my back . what can I do? i need help lease.

Posted by Optional on 10/02/2011 at 07:40

am not a virgin but idon't enjoy sex, i don't have the urge cos my viginal is vry tight. My boy friend complains alot. Please advise me on the drug to take

Posted by abdullllllllll on 08/02/2011 at 05:02

respected, i am 22year's old boy my chest are so big,would the gym will be good to reduce my chest or which sort of exercise would be best for me to reduce my chest ,i am woried about it,

Posted by alex on 04/02/2011 at 03:52

i have small wound under my pennies what could be the reason .?

Posted by Optional on 03/02/2011 at 07:02

I have vaginal infection after sexual intercourse with my husband and its irritation, a worst condition where i can't do anything sometimes i use to cry? help me plz...

Posted by karen on 03/02/2011 at 11:11

Hello, I'm karen. I hope this is the right bulletine to talk about health problem. I have a symptom of gas leak. It's been over 8years. I'm always in trouble with social life activity. Because of Bad smell. Who likes it. Even me hate it. I understand people's avoiding. Anyway I decide not to live like this in forward life. I've gone and seen to so many doctors but they just say " It is not a disease, just a symptom. " I can not take it. And I can not wait anymore. I do excercise everyday over an hour at least. And I don't have constipation. Also I never had any hurt with my bowls and anal. I never feel any sign until gas comes out of my anal. Even it is in my stomach. Also I can not force gas not to come out. Gas is out of my control. How can I get out of this hell? It is a living hell. I can not work at an office with co-workers, I can not go to the movies. Let me know please.

Posted by Optional on 03/02/2011 at 09:22

Hi, Im having two white coloured pimples type on my penis.Intially only one was there now it became two .it is not on the penis head. Im very much worried about this ,Please suggest what kind of problem is this..Is it better to consult with an Urologist ??

Posted by Chris on 29/01/2011 at 12:35

have a small swollen bump on the head of my penis(near opening urethra hole). I have had it for several months and it is not painful but is worrying concerning it getting more reddish. It all started with small tiny flesh on the top of the penis head, along the upper-side adjoining the skin. This red swollen thingy on head of my penis is getting more severe when I took exotic seafood. Could it be cured by anti-inflammatory drugs or it requires small sugery ?

Posted by smalley19 on 27/01/2011 at 04:15

I have been experiencing something that I think is unusual and have been watching it to see if it goes away, gets better, or gets worse. Well during the past few weeks, I have noticed that there is black spot on my left breast nipple. At times when I would look at it and squeeze the nipple, more of it would come out. At times there is probably as much as a size of a pencil eraser then at other times there isnt as much. Before experiencing this, I had a rash that was all over my breasts and it was itching and uncomfortable. I talked to a family member who is a nurse and they told me to use hydrocortisone cream, to help with the itching and irritation. This did help and the rash went away. However, I still have one spot that is still there. And it also happens to be on my left breast, the same one that has the black liquid that comes out of my nipple when squeezed. So if you have any advice please feel free and let me know. Thanks so much, smalley19

Posted by arjun on 22/01/2011 at 02:37

yeah..am 24 years old guy..one night..there is pain occurs on one of my balls.and start to swell..so i consult a doctor..he gave some medicine..now my balls start to reduce it size..actually it gone..now it is very small..compare t other..so what should i do please telll..

Posted by Optional on 22/01/2011 at 04:33

I notice my sperm has become discolored over the pas 3 weeks. Should I be concerned?

Posted by Optional on 21/01/2011 at 11:59

It is advised not to use lubricating gel while trying to conceive - is this just vaginal gel? Is it ok to use male lubricating gel?

Posted by Anonymous on 13/01/2011 at 10:12

I need help and Im so scared. Ive had RECURRENT bacterial vaginosis for 3 years. It wont go away. I admit the first few treatments were done wrongly on accident due to lack of instructions given to me by the doctor. Doctors have not been too caring and treat this like its nothing but it really wont go away, it keeps coming back and im scared something really bad is wrong or is going to be wrong with me..or i wont be able to have kids! :( please help me

Posted by Optional on 06/01/2011 at 02:45

i have a growth on my penis shafts and have been will same partner for over 9 years and its been there for that long but was small but recently has got bigger

Posted by Optional on 02/01/2011 at 06:17

my fore skin not back fully its just back to tip of penis so kindly suggest me what can i do

Posted by Optional on 29/12/2010 at 07:27

i'm 22 years old. i don't recall when it started, but it was about 1-2 years ago, on the top of my penis started to emerge fractures/cracks or tiny little cuts on the skin of my penis top middle. there are about 50 or more little cuts and i have no idea why or what to do. to be honest i used to masturbate alot. i'd appreciate any of your insight over this, it really bothers me, atleast aesthetically (it doesn't hurt) thank you in advance.

Posted by Optional on 28/12/2010 at 03:50

Hello doctor, my vulvar area is so... Itchy it's been a while I'll just apply a vaginal itch cream and it helps a lot. I'm not sexually active I'll just have sex with my husband once a wk . No discharges on my vagina it's only the itch is so terrible. Doctor pls help me what I'm gonna do it is very disturbing sometimes. Doctor, thank you so much for u'r help.

Posted by Ky on 22/12/2010 at 06:38

hi....i am a 16 years old teenage boy. I had this itching under my foreskin 1 month after i had sex. Now it stopped but there seems to be small red bumps under my foreskin and a little bit on my penis head. It doesn't itch or anything but i don't feel comfortable knowing its there. I am very scared about this. I hope it is not STD. Any advice of what it may be?

Posted by Optional on 20/12/2010 at 05:06

i am going to get marry soon, i do mastrubation very rarely, when i pull the foreskin back i have severe pain, will this affect my sex life?, please advise me

Posted by Peter on 12/12/2010 at 01:02

I always have dry ry orgasm (no semen)during intercourse. What is wrong with me? Please advise. Peter

Posted by Optional on 11/12/2010 at 11:19

hi, i am not sure why, recently i realized that my testis go into my body right above the penis after masturbation. what could the reasons be, and what should i do about it. thank you

Posted by Greco-Arkansan on 09/12/2010 at 05:00

About 10 years ago, about time for ejuculation it felt like an obstruction in my penis. The seminal fluid flowed out, yet there was no feeling as previously. As time went by, it got worse with practically no feeling of enjoyment, greater difficulty in reaching a climax where to the point that now, it's impossible to reach a climax at all. The desire for intercourse is as strong. Is it age related or some type of damage incured 10 years ago?

Posted by gelly on 24/11/2010 at 03:02

i have an embarassing problem... a sexual dysfunction.i always vist my ob but i cant tell to her that i have a vaginal discharge.... its been along time. and until now... i dont really understand why i cant reach orgasm everytime i have sex.

Posted by Optional on 16/11/2010 at 04:10

just read about erectile dyfunction, i believe there is a problem with my husband because i cant make love on top him which i like very much and also behind.his erection is weak when it comes to me taking charge and he always refused these styles.is this sign of erectile dyfunction? will like to help my husband

Posted by hit on 09/11/2010 at 01:06

hello doctor i have problem in my balls (testicles) it sweats a lot & my underwear always sticks inbetween the 2 testicles. Where i have tried wearing all different styles & loose fitting once, But still it sticks off & i feel very uncomfortable. Kindly suggest how to solve this issue.

Posted by Optional on 05/11/2010 at 11:47

I'm a 55 year old male and am wondering if it is normal for my penis to be getting smaller?

Posted by College Guy on 29/10/2010 at 08:59

Hi, recently about 3 weeks ago I noticed that there was a lump in the skin of my scrotum. I hadnt noticed it before and it much resembles the size of a mosquito bite. A few days prior, I had sex, but I do not think that was the cause as there are no other reactions. Its been a while now and it has not gone away, it pea sized and feels like a cyst. It has the consistency almost of a sort of hard mass in the scrotal skin not attached to anything. It is noticeable from the outside of the skin. What is it and how can I fix it?-Thanks

Posted by Optional on 29/10/2010 at 08:40

is it possible not having nipples?i have a very small hole like appearance at the center of aeriola?any problem with this?wen will i get nipples?

Posted by clare mullen on 13/10/2010 at 11:56

hi ive got a pile ,am in loads off pain ,,put cream on had it 4 days now ,,what should i do thanks

Posted by charlotte on 04/10/2010 at 11:29

i have missed my period for 5 weeks and Ive now just started to bleed its not a normal bleed it started off black to brown in colour and then almost orange and then back to brown it was a very light bleed a few tiny dark clots and i was only bleeding for 2 day,i thought i might have been pregnant but Ive done lots of pregnancy tests and they have come back negative,today my doctor rang me and said that i have got a bacterial infection with i am now taking phenoxymethylpenicillin postassium tablets 250mg bp,2 for times a day, I'm getting so stressed out with this and the doctors don't seem to be telling me nothing ,am i pregnant or is it because Ive got an infection .please help I'm not sure what to do next.

Posted by Optional on 12/09/2010 at 09:06

cool

Posted by tighting of my vigna on 07/09/2010 at 09:10

why is my vigina really tight i haven had sex it about a month cause iv been bleeding please help thanks

Posted by Optional on 02/09/2010 at 04:26

getting severe itch in an anal part recently like a month .plz help me

Posted by Anonn.. on 27/08/2010 at 04:54

I recently started having sex with my boyfriend ( i was a virgin ) and i am in constant pain during penetration, thrusting in && out etc and then for hours afterwards. This has happened just the once because the pain is so horrid he doesn't want to hurt me... will this go away after a few more times or is there something wrong with me and i need to contact my doctor?

Posted by Optional on 26/08/2010 at 05:47

hi, my doctor give a prescription for metronidazole 400 and canesten combi Do you know if my partner have to take something as well?

Posted by Optional on 25/08/2010 at 09:33

I am vulvodynia for a year and 3 months now due to masturbation.(i was so stupid and is such a bad idea to do) I also am constipated. So every time i empty my bowel, my vulva would hurt and throbbs. Am I going to die sooner or later if this keeps on going on for the rest of my life?

Posted by Adam on 11/08/2010 at 10:11

Im Adam and I have an undescended testical and yes i was embarrassed about it before but now im not because its not my fualt or anything. I do feel diferent only having one testicle but i;ve already hit puberty.

Posted by shihaj on 11/08/2010 at 01:18

i have hand sweating problem can u advise me any hand sweating cream available in dubai

Posted by Optional on 05/08/2010 at 03:07

I have a problem since last year where i do itch my anal region after defeacating and walking for sometimes pliz help and select the drug of choice thanks in advance

Posted by nazir beg on 03/08/2010 at 02:49

i am male 32 i am suffuring for dundruff in 3 years my scalp dry intchi many shampoo hair oil youse but no result nizoral shampoo best for dundruff plese advice me

Posted by Sam on 28/07/2010 at 02:42

Hi, I really appreciate if you can help to sort out my worries about my sexual experience with my wife. we just got married, when i tried to have sex with her i felt that my penis not getting erect. then if we tried to play with it, it may erect for some time and its goes back to the very normal position again. so that reason, i was not able to break her hymen with in last 10 days . now we are mentally worried about this issue. normally before marriage when i do the hand job, it was perfectly alright and i never find any problem with my penis. so i really need some one help to solve my problem. appreciate your quick response. thanks Sam

Posted by papu on 27/07/2010 at 01:22

how to make lips look smaller

Posted by AT NT on 23/07/2010 at 04:48

Hello Doctor, I am an uncircumcised male.I am unable to peel my foreskin back over the head of my penis completely. Earlier I was able to peel it off very easily however now a days I am unable to peel it off completely as it pains when I try to peel it off partially. Current situation is , I am able to peel it off completely with slight pain while the penis is in collapsed state however when my penis is in erected state, it does not peel off, and if i try it pains. Please suggest a cure.

Posted by AMIR on 19/07/2010 at 08:30

ITS VERY USEFUL FR ME..THANKS A LOT..PLEAS PROVIDE INDIAN DOCTORS LIST AS WEL

Posted by Optional on 07/07/2010 at 06:59

sir, i removed 1 undescended testis in age of 24 and now i m 25 years old. Iwas suffered from inguinal hernia with 1 undescended testis. what r chances of testicular cancer now?

Posted by Optional on 07/07/2010 at 01:27

Im having something like bumps around my anus, they are itchy.I wonder what kind of doctor should i go to see? i meant the name of the kind of doctor for my concern. i dont know much about English, so please help

Posted by Der on 26/05/2010 at 04:55

I have the condition phimosis. Ive went to two different doctors about it and they both immediately suggested circumcision. However I know there are less drastic measures which I would like to try first. How do I find reliable info on these?

Posted by Optional on 04/05/2010 at 02:28

why does it hurt when i lay down with having anal fissure they dont' when i am sitting up but laying down on my side it hurts i have every cream to imagine even the nifedipine (Adalat) or diltiazem cream I just got but i need to sleep any ideas??

Posted by Optional on 21/04/2010 at 01:58

i think i may have symptoms of thrush

Posted by sandhya on 19/04/2010 at 10:02

i have bedwetting problem from childhood...now i am 22yr old..i am very embrassed about it..i have taken many treatments..there is no problem in my urinary bladder or something....usually most of the doctors say its a psycological problem..wat do i do ...plz help me..i have tried out all possible ways to cure it

Posted by Optional on 15/04/2010 at 06:41

I am 20 year old male and I have puffy nipples since I was fourteen. I had flat nipples earlier but I used to stretch (pull) them a lot to make the bigger due to it I ended up having puffy nipples. I am healthy guy with 12% body fat percentage. Is there any way to get rid of them without surgery?

Posted by Amelia on 09/04/2010 at 09:50

Hi, lately my vagina has been very sour and has a little rash that enter's my vagina. i have alot of hairs on my vagina and that makes it hurt and sting even more. but for about a couple of weeks i am getting a milky liquid coming out my vagina and im not sure what this is. what should i do?

Posted by Optional on 03/04/2010 at 03:35

Doctor, I am 31 year old married man. I am suffering from PE and ED since last 2 years. I have taken many medicine like Herbal 1 top Capsule, Rajsee Course, 2 Much Gold Capsule, Vita ex Gold, Shilajit etc. and presently I am taking Musli Pak, Ashwagandha Churna, Kaunch Pak, Neo Tablet (Charak Pharma) and Shatavari Churna. Thease medicine have been suggested me by a local doctor. Doctor please help me. I have tightness problem also and my sex time is very less. leass than 1 minute. Please suggest me . How can I do start- stop technique. I can do this alone by musturbation or only with my wife because she will not be ready for this. One more problem is, my wife also have lack of interest in sex (loss of libido) Please advice me.

Posted by Daniel on 18/03/2010 at 08:28

my testis other one is big.can i make a child

Posted by lesbian_discharge??? on 16/03/2010 at 05:05

im a lesbian in a relationship obviously with another woman. All the talk on "issues" on the net seem to be about same sex partners. I need help! My girlfriend has a problem and is too shy to talk to a doctor about it. Shes an a very "wet" girl. She constantly has stains in her panties that are thick and yellowish ( i noticed this doin our laundry) its thick crusty and yellow. And when we have sex she is always SOAKED in fluids. soaked to the point where my entire hand and air get wet (way more than the average woman!!!) the bed gets soaked sometimes even the blakets... and theyre ALWAYS a strong vaginal odour during and definately after sexual activity.And when i have my fingers in her i can feel that her vaginal fluids are thicker than anything ive ever experience! She showers every morning before work and after work. so i know its not a cleanslyness issue. WHAT IS WRONG???

Posted by samie. on 06/03/2010 at 10:16

i have extremely hairy nipples and have had problems with them for a very long time, reading this has helped me. thankyou

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